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Does your child suffer from anxiety because he or she does not want to go to school? Tears, aches and pains, nervousness, & pleads, desperately asking you not to take them to school that day? Its so difficult for you as a parent to see your child going thru this. So I wanted to share our story and what we did to help Bella work thru her morning anxiety, in hopes that sharing our story will help you and other kiddos like Bella.
“I hate school mom. Why can’t you teach me? Why can’t I stay home with you?”
My child has been getting very sad and anxious at drop of, especially on Monday mornings. With tears rolling down her face, she snuggles with me in bed, right before the alarm goes off. Its like her little body already knows what is coming. She does not want to go to school. "I hate school mom. Why can't you teach me? Why can't I stay home with you?". As I hold her in my arms, I just look up to the ceiling and get lost in prayer. I don't know what to do. I want to take all of her fears away, I want to make it all better, I don't want to make her go to school, I would love it if she spent the entire day with me, because we have that kind of relationship. We just get each other.
But I still encourage her to get out of bed and get ready for school.
I try to be that mom that teaches her kids to face their fears head on and to not shy away from them. To face their challenges, talk about them and deal with them. In this life we will have many trials, but we are not to face them alone. We have such beautiful promises that we need to claim over our children...and that is exactly what I started to do with Bella.
I wanted to share some of the things that we started incorporating in our morning routines, that have immensely helped Bella deal with her uncomfortableness/ anxiety /stress in the mornings. I hope that it helps you deal with some of your morning anxiety or the anxiety your kiddos might be facing as well!
1. Start your morning by blasting music.
Music is so powerful, it has the power to change moods, to lift up your spirit, to bring peace and tranquility. So start your day with some music, from the second that alarm goes off play some music. Play it in the house, and on the way to school; let your child hear something that is going to motivate them, uplift them and help them with their day.
I began playing worship music in the morning and I saw a huge change in Bella. She loves music and it really began to transform the way our mornings flowed. I incorporated waking her up by playing music, played it while we had breakfast and played in the car as well. Her little brain is so in-tuned with music, I think it really brought her peace. As a believer in Jesus Christ, I believe in the power of worshiping Him, I believe that it really helps her meditate in Him. Find what works for your family and play on!
2. Pray, Mediate, have a moment of silence.
Another coping method that we started applying to our mornings are prayers. I know we are not all believers so you can incorporate a time of meditation, or a moment of silence, as long as we can quiet our minds and our souls for a moment and hush the hustle and bustle of our crazy busy & hurried mornings.
There is always so much that we try to process these days, everything is screaming for our attention. Teaching Bella to have a moment of stillness and quietness while we prayed has given her calmness and serenity. It has been awesome to watch. Maybe this is a good time for some yoga breathing. Just make a little pause before tackling your day.
3. Reminder: we are carefully and wonderfully made.
As a believer and follower of Jesus Christ, we practice speaking over our children the promises that the Bible states. Here are my favorites for both Bella & Tyler:
You have I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
4. Establish a routine
Routines provide the plan of actions of how things are to flow; it provides us and our kids with a schedule of things to come.
Bella thrives when there is a routine. Monday mornings are harder for her, because its the start of a new weekly morning routine - a change from our weekend morning routines. I quickly observed that Bella had a harder time if we veered from our morning routine.
One final thing we did with & for Bella was to provide/establish a goal. We began with a small attainable goal ++one great, stress-free/worry free Monday morning. Once that goal was reached we revised the goal and we challenged her to have a couple of
I forget the power of prayer, I forget the promises that have been written for us. I dont claim them as mine, I don't pray them over my children. i dont' tap into the power that Jesus has pver everything.I often have to check my behavior and my actions. Many times I have been guilty of showing my child my anxiety and my fears and without wanting to, I kinda give them to her. Our children, after all, mimic our behavior.
I also check to see if I behaved or spoke in a way that I should not have. If I had an argument with my husband, or a struggle with a friend. If my heart is sad or angry my child can feel it, she senses it. Lets' be honest, as perfect as we would like to be for our kids and in front of ours kids; sometimes our ugly comes out and they might not see or hear the best version of us.
Revise the evening before. maybe you can find a cause.